My girlfriend is around 7 months pregnant with my child, and we recently had a serious split. We were living together, and most of my belongings are still at her place.
A few days ago, she told me she was done and didn’t want to work it out. I told her I understood that I had added stress at times and that I was willing to go to therapy and work on myself. I followed through, and my first appointment is this Wednesday.
Since then, communication has felt unclear to me. We have barely talked at times, but we also talked on the phone Friday, and there have been a few normal messages here and there. On Mother’s Day, I came over because I had gotten her a gift. She accepted it, I spent time with her kids, helped clean, and later got food for everyone.
Later that night, she told me to leave. She also said I didn’t need to rush to get my belongings out. Before I left, I asked her directly if she was firm on wanting to be split for good. I told her that if that was truly what she wanted, I would respect it, leave, and move everything out. She didn’t give me a clear answer.
That is the part I am struggling with. I don’t want to pressure her, especially while she is pregnant, but I also don’t know how to handle the uncertainty. I want to respect her space while still being prepared for our baby and figuring out what to do about my belongings and the relationship.
i didn’t message her all day today & she recently messaged me about the show we were watching & said “don’t watch this in the living room at your parents“
I’m trying to figure out the healthiest way to move forward. My goal is to stay calm, respect her space, avoid making things worse, and keep things stable for the baby. I also need to know how to handle my belongings and communication without pushing for answers in a way that adds stress.
she said I kept her from her friends & sister, but that’s far from true. I always asked her to hang out with them. but they bailed on her. over & over. she ssir I’m the reason. also said I argue to much, but I’m in therapy now. I proved that. I just am new to coparenting.
I don’t know what to do, I need guidance more then anything, I’m hurting. what are your opinions?
tl;dr: My girlfriend is 7 months pregnant with my child and recently said she was done with the relationship. We were living together, and most of my belongings are still at her place. I told her I’d respect her choice and move out if she was firm on being split for good, but she didn’t give me a clear answer. Since then, communication has been mixed, and she said I don’t need to rush to get my stuff. I’m trying to handle this calmly, respect her space, prepare for the baby, and figure out healthy communication without adding more stress.