I'm 25f and I've been a loner for most of my life. I grew up with really bad social anxiety and basically spent age 12 onward isolated. I really started trying to work on my anxiety after graduating high school, and it slowly got a lot better. I was really looking forward to my late teens/early 20s and finally felt like things were coming together for me. Then the pandemic happened, which really set me back, then I started developing some serious health problems. It took literally years to get diagnosed and treated and I spent pretty much all of that time unemployed and unable to do much of anything other than lay around on the couch.
I'm finally to a point now where I'm feeling better, but I feel like I missed a huge part of my development. I have literally no one in my life other than my family. I always hoped that I'd "blossom" after high school and really felt like I was on my way, but now I'm really not sure. I feel so far behind everyone, and like everyone's already "been there and done that", made their friends and now are looking to settle down, while I'm still looking to go out and have fun, do stupid stuff, and find my group of weirdos I'd always hoped I'd have. I know that for most people social lives dip after college, but is it unrealistic for me to expect to have a super active social life at this age (or older, seeing how its going to takw time to get back to where I was)?