There’s this guy I briefly went out with in undergrad and for whatever reason he has lingered in the back of my mind for literal years. Things ended pretty early on and I honestly think part of it was because I didn’t want to sleep with him at the time. We’ve talked very briefly since then (I reached out once last summer just casually), but nothing substantial.
Now I’m in a completely different phase of life, more confident, more secure in myself, and honestly just a very different person than I was back then. I’ve been debating reaching out and asking if he’d want to grab coffee sometime and catch up, especially since I’ll be back in town the next few weekends.
What’s getting in my head is the fact that he’s literally the only guy I’ve ever felt compelled to reach out to multiple times after things ended. I genuinely don’t even know if he’s single, and I’m okay if he doesn’t respond or isn’t interested, but part of me wonders if this is normal curiosity/unfinished business or if I’m romanticizing someone from my past.
Has anyone else had someone linger in the back of their mind like this for years?
Should I reach out again and put an invitation for coffee on the table?