A few days ago I found a small glass vial with what looked like the beads from my Adderall XR capsules, and also an empty vial in my husband’s coat pocket. When I asked him about it, he acted like he had no idea what it was, shaking his head, saying “idk,” and looking at me like I was crazy for even asking. That part really messed with me.
I went downstairs, counted my pills, and realized I was missing 6 and I had literally just filled my prescription 2 days before. About 10–15 minutes later he came downstairs and admitted it was my Adderall, he had already taken the missing six pills and been taking from me for a long time.
Today he’s saying something different. I had to bring this problem up today because he hasn't said anything to me about and is acting like nothing happened. Today he said that never took full pills, but has been opening my capsules and “skimming” beads out of them for years. He admitted he’s been doing this for years, probably around 4-5 years. He said he would take a little less than half so I wouldn’t notice.
I wanted to know why he said he took the 6 pills Thursday night and now he is saying he was just sneaking/skimming them. He said "because wouldn't believe him anyways and he didn't want to argue."
Looking back, there were times I did notice something felt off with my medication. Sometimes the capsules looked less full but I second-guessed myself. I even thought maybe I was having memory issues. There were also times I ran out early and thought it was weird, especially since I sometimes skip doses on weekends. I even told him I thought my medicine was more effective pre-covid.
This medication is something I actually need. I have ADHD and a sleep disorder and rely on it to function and stay awake. I’ve even complained to him before that my meds didn’t feel consistent and thought it was a manufacturer issue or an absorption issue… now I’m realizing it was because he has been he was altering them.
I keep thinking about how this went on for years
it was hidden. He denied it at first and made me feel like I was pulling a rabbit out of a hat. I had to pull the truth out of him. Now his story has shifted. My mind is starting to spiral. What else is he hiding. How could he look me right in the eyes and act like he didn't know what that was.
It’s not like he cheated, but this is bothering me more than I expected and is making me question him and our relationship.
At first I was like wow, wtf, but now a few days later I feel way more unsettled and honestly betrayed, and I’m starting to question our whole relationship.How would someone in my position process something like this in a long-term relationship? Shouldn't he be trying to talk to me to trying to figure this out? Like this a situation that sorry isn't enough right?