So guy from her college started talking to her about 5 months ago, and they’ve been hanging out in the same group a lot. From the beginning, he’s been very clear that he likes her and they’ve been talking every day and have also gone on multiple dates over the past few months..
She, on the other hand, has been confused. She does like him — she enjoys spending time with him, talking to him, and being around him. He’s been genuinely sweet and has treated her really well. But at the same time, she’s unsure if she actually likes him enough to date him or not.
Part of her hesitation is that he’s not the “type” she usually goes for — personality-wise, looks, etc. But more than that, she’s scared of relationships in general. She feels like relationships come with a lot of baggage — fights, ego issues, family involvement, expectations — and she’s not sure she wants all of that.
Now after 5 months, the guy wants a clear answer on whether this is going anywhere or not, which is fair.
The issue is: she does like him, but she’s also overthinking a lot — like whether she’d ever marry him, whether she’ll lose her space, whether things will get too serious. That’s making her hesitate to say yes at all.
She’s confused between “I like him” and “I don’t want the pressure of a relationship.”
What should she do to get more clarity? Has anyone been in a similar situation?
TL'DR: Best friend has been talking to a guy for 5 months, they talk daily and have gone on multiple dates. She likes him and enjoys his company, but is unsure about a relationship due to fear of commitment and overthinking the future. The guy now wants a clear answer — she’s confused about what to do.