Hey Guys,
so i have been living with my gf for the past 2 months but now she moved to a different city for her university.
According to her own words I have no "red flags" and am very good and she wants to live with me and for the 2 months we lived together we fought like once or twice and also small arguments but all in all it was largely peaceful.
And even right now there are no big problems as such. But there are things that bother me and these things aren't something she mistakenly said once or twice. Its about her core beliefs and the way she behaves.
So both of us did our school this year and both of us will be starting with uni this year. She has financial and other problems. But last night when we were talking on the phone she said "If nothing in your career or financial condition changes after a year, then we stop. Cause i dont wanna give my life to someone who isn't financially stable, and i cannot waste my time also cause i am getting old now, you know after 30 girls get old very fast. And i need someone who can take care of me, i want someone who is masculine enough and also helps with household chores and ofc who has good EQ and all "
Also she said the same thing when she was with me and in the end of one month when i told her "See this month due to unexpected expenses I don't have much money left, which means its enough but we gotta be a bit careful "
Her reaction on that day was the same as yesterday. Although i did made a mistake by saying that its only temporary and after a few months i will start my internship with uni so its gonna improve further. Also on that day she said "I have always seen financial problems i don't wanna see them also in my future "
Now i am not saying everything in the relationship is going bad, ofc not but this thing bothers me a bit cause to me if thats a deal breaker for someone, that simply means thats the thing thats most important to them, which is obviously not good
I am also not saying that anyone should look for someone who is unstable in any way but thats clearly not the case with me
TL;DR After listening to the thing she said on the phone and also one time before same situation, I dont know what should i do cause I am neither broke nor directionless nor anything that brings instability, but ofcourse i am also not super rich. And when she says that something in me doesn't feel alright