I need some outside perspective because I’m honestly confused and a bit frustrated.
I (F27) went on a few dates with this guy (M38) Things were good he was the one who liked me first, pursued me, and even said he had a “big crush” on me. The connection felt real and we were still very much in the getting-to-know-each-other stage.
Out of nowhere, he ended things. His reason was that he’s “dating intentionally” and wants someone whose future aligns with his, specifically around kids. I told him I’m not against having kids. I’m just not 100% certain yet. I said I’m still figuring it out, which I feel is normal?
He basically said he’s trying to trust his gut and doesn’t want to invest in something that might not align long-term.
I get the idea of dating intentionally, but at the same time… it feels really premature to make that call after only a few dates. Like, we barely know each other. It honestly came across to me like an excuse or an easy way out.
TL;DR:
Went on a few good dates with a guy who liked me first and said he had a big crush. I told him I’m open to kids but still unsure. He ended things early, saying he’s dating intentionally and wants full alignment on the future. It feels premature and a bit like an excuse—am I overthinking or is that weird?