I 24F met a guy 29M in a very natural, unexpected way. We went out once, and the connection felt different — easy, warm, and strangely familiar. We didn’t rush into anything or put labels on it, but there was something real there from the beginning.
Then life got complicated.
Not long after we met, he eventually deployed. He asked me if i wanted to continue what we have going on and i said yes. Communication changed a lot after that. Some days he was present and sweet, and other days he would disappear because he was overwhelmed, exhausted, or dealing with things he couldn’t talk about.
There were hard moments — times when plans fell through, when messages went unanswered, when I felt confused or unsure if I should reach out. Times when I wondered if I was expecting too much or if he still cared. And at the same time, I knew he was carrying a lot and wasn’t in a place to communicate consistently.
But even with all of that, neither of us walked away. We’re not boyfriend and girlfriend, and we haven’t defined anything officially, but the connection is still there. We still check in when we can. We still care. There’s something real between us, even if the timing and circumstances make it complicated.
I have been constantly praying more so than I ever have on our connection we have for us both. I pray every night on us growing closer, more intimate and prayer for ourselves to get closer with God.
I’m not giving up on this connection. I genuinely like him, and I want to see where this can go when the timing is right.
I think I need advice on if anyone else has experienced this, is it normal for someone in the military to be? I guess you would call it “low bandwidth”. Like cause replies are sometimes short, but also I assume it’s just because of what he’s been doing and working. I also try not to bother him as well cause I don’t wanna come off as clingy and putting more pressure, I guess you could say I’m more like an emotional connection because we met briefly, but then he had a deploy. I guess you can say too like needing help with communicating better and stuff like that.