together 15 years married 9. have a 3 yo and 6 yo. my husband is regularly stressed and short when around the kids. i don’t feel appreciated on the day to day for all I do to keep our house running and I don’t feel appreciated with random thoughtful things like he did years ago like making me a nice plate of food or planning a gift for my birthday or taking initiative to order a small cake on his own etc.
I have toldhim this about the day to day many times and that a genuine thank you would go such a long way but he doesn’t do it. it’s like he views it as my work so why thank for it anyways is the feeling I get.
I feel critiqued for so much , he’s frequently grumpy from work or overstimulated from three year old.
any advice?
I miss having a partner that adds light and joy frequently to my life (he did in the past) but it doesnt feel that way lately. it’s like now his complaints and grumpiness just overtake everything