I was discussing this a family member of mine. I struggled a lot to make friends in high school and I was isolated from the other girls. They used to walk away when I approached them. I do think it's bc the ringleader of the group picked on me and generally told the group to avoid me
Because of this, I didn't make any lasting friendships during school. Ofc all these people live in my home town so it means I don't have any friends here that I can just hangout with
Now I'm out of school and in the world of work, I can get along with people easily. Ofc not all will hang out with me after work bc it wouldn't be a compatible friendship but I have meaningful convos with a handful of ppl.
What always gets me though is after I leave the workplace, even though I was really good friends with that person, they don't stay in touch. Ik ppl will say you out the effort in which I do but it always seems like they move on? That makes me wonder how ppl have years of friendships with the same people without seeing each other regularly I.e if they worked together or something. Is it just both parties keeping in touch over text/calls and how regularly? I feel like if b bothering them and intruding on their new life when they've moved on let's say from a job or something
I feel like it's hard as a girl bc the stereotype is girls are always chatting to their friends. That's what I feel like – that other girls have lots of friends and I don't