So I (mid 20s F) went on a first date with this guy (mid 30s) from Hinge. We did an escape room and it was actually really good. Conversation flowed, we worked well together, a few moments of awkwardness, etc
When I got home I messaged him saying I had a really nice time, and he replied saying to let him know if I wanted to meet up again and that he’s down for anything spontaneous.
A few days later I told him I had something in mind for a second date. He said he wouldn’t be free for about 2 weeks, which he had already told me before + during the date. I just said that’s fine and we’ll see if timings line up after that.
Then a few days later I decided to get off Hinge, so I asked him to follow me on Instagram and he did.
Since then though… the communication has been kinda meh. Like he replies, but:
-it’s usually short (one liners, jokes, memes)
-never initiates first
-doesn’t build on anything
We had some back and forth while he was away (he sent me a pic from a helicopter ride lol), but it always feels like I’m the one keeping it going.
He also mentioned he’d be back in the city on Sunday, but didn’t message or follow up at all after that. It’s now been a few days and we haven’t spoken.
I still have that second date idea in mind, but I’m also like… am I just over-investing at this point?
I don’t mind being direct and asking to meet up, but I also don’t want to be the one doing all the work if he’s not that keen.
Do you guys think this is just a bad texter / low effort communicator who might be better in person, or is this just low interest?
Would you reach out one more time or just leave it?
For context he’s only been in the country for ~3 months and is studying for his masters, so idk if that affects how he dates / communicates.