I need honest advice before I make a dumb decision.
I’ve liked a girl in college for a while now, and this whole situation has been mentally exhausting. In person, things feel good — she smiles, seems shy/nervous sometimes, asks questions, and we’ve even spent one-on-one time together (like going to the library). Those moments make me feel like maybe there’s something there.
But over text, it feels inconsistent and often one-sided. I’m usually the one starting conversations, trying to keep them going, and then I end up overthinking every reply or delay.
At this point, I’m tired of living in “maybe.”
My question is:
Is confessing a good idea when you’re mentally drained by uncertainty — or is that just me looking for closure?
Has anyone confessed mainly because they needed clarity, and did it help… or make things worse?