Hello, I am 32 year old female and husband is 36. This is a continuous from a previous post. But I can make it short. So basically husband had an opportunity to be offensive coordinator at another school he told that school YES and then told his current job he took it without really figuring out the money. So I asked him how much it be so he called new opportunity and it’s less like a lot. Like he would have to trade in his car and it be bad. So together and with him saying final say he decided no. Told new job and current. So his boss is a vindictive person so he’s trying to get rid of my husband. I even told him maybe talk to new opportunity and see what they can do and he said no. I told hubby you should never tell left hand what the right hand is doing. Like he shoot himself in the foot.
Just to let you know I’m all for it but then realize how much short money is. Like he wouldn’t pay his own individual bill. Like car note and etc. I felt awful like I cried I want him to take the role but we have a family. And if it was just me and him I think it be okay but husband thinks not. So he had a meeting with his boss when this happened months ago and he (boss) thinks it’s my fault. Husband told him it was a family decision. I told husband when comes to business/job always say it’s you bc they will think I run his life.
So months later, his boss trying to fire him in a way. Or kick him off the team, he still have his job at school but kicked off the team. So his boss is pity and vindictive. Hubby had another meeting with his boss and the boss once again said that he thinks it’s my fault. And he should’ve took that other job.
I asked husband what you say when he mentioned me. He said nothing to his boss. He just shook his head it was towards the end of the meeting and couldn’t believe what he was hearing.
I felt again he didn’t have my back. What you think? It takes one second to say no it was my decision don’t involve my wife.
I really want to message his boss and tell him. I didn’t tell him to take the job I actually told him to go up there and listen to them but husband said no to the job. (I just pointed out the money issue but we could’ve work around it. Maybe. But at the end I thought it wasn’t a good fit.) So stop blaming me for my husband not getting his dream.
It makes me sad bc I feel like everyone thinks that of me and it don’t feel good at all. Like I know my husband is sad bc he’s trying to find a new gig but now I’m sad. Bc I feel like maybe we should’ve just took it. I stopped him from his dream job. I didn’t know his boss would be like that and try to get rid of him. The whole meeting had nothing to do about his performance at all.
Idk what to do.