Hi all,
I wanted to come to the sub to ask a quick question.
I M 25 have been with my committed partner F 25 for 9 years. During that time we've had a great sex life with usual ups and downs.
Within the last year, my partner got an IUD and we've been able to proceed with raw creampie sex. Just recently, I've been in my own head because whenever we do it raw, she sometimes rubs her clit to feel the PIV better. We've talked and communicated and she said that I do a fantastic job still but since we don't use a condom anymore, it's better for her to rub so she can feel me better since the usual condom provided texture. Mind you, I completely understand and am happy that she gets off. I get off to her getting off.
Recently though Ive been in my own head about thinking that I'm not adequate enough for her and Everytime I see her rub it I kind of get discouraged and it's been giving a mental block to finish.
I want to note I do have OCD and anxiety so it definitely doesn't help. But has anyone found methods to work through thoughts like this?
Usually when we have sex and she rubs it I'll sometimes do it for her or be more aggressive and that does the trick.
Lastly, I have had a lot of stress in my work life and just buying a new home recently so there is a lot of misc. Stress added on too.
Thank you all for reading! Looking forward to the advice because I love being intimate with the love of my life and would like to work through this asap.
Edit 1: Hi everyone. Woke up to lots of great responses and I just want to say, thank you for all of the great insight! Gonna keep everything I learned in mind going forward. Thank you all for helping me out with this.