tldr; Am I wrong for overreacting and overthinking this whole situation of my bf raising his voice at me?
I 26F have been in a relationship with bf33M for 14 months. We were on the phone as we were driving home from work. He was telling me a story and as I’m driving I didn’t hear the first part of the story so the second part confused me and I asked a question. So I ask for clarification and he raised his voice “DO YOU NOT LISTEN TO ME?”
And I said I misunderstood the first part. I was shocked and told him I do listen to him but he mumbled the first part and I said I can’t believe he raised his voice at me. I asked if something was wrong with him and he said no nothing. He is a tall man with a deep voice but he has never raised his voice at me. I have seen him get into loud conversations with his parents. I got off the phone with him and he texted me and I said no one in my family has raised their voice at me and I don’t need it to start from him. I work as a nanny and have seen this within a parents I worked for and often used as a way to control their wife until she says “okay you’re right.” Only then did the husband lower their voice and act calmly and their kids I care for were scared of their dad when he raised his voice like that. I do not want that for myself. Coming from a father who would raise their voice to my mom also made me afraid of my dad growing up. A part of me says he’s a man and being annoyed is a part of being a human but at the same time I have never had that tone used on me from partners. Especially since it’s not like I kept asking you repeat himself. He is very sweet and always worries about my wellbeing and plans things that I would enjoy.
Edit; for grammar mistakes
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