Hi everyone,
I’ve recently started noticing a pattern in my behavior, and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it or if it’s something I actually need to work on.
Over the past 1–2 years, I’ve become someone who talks a lot, especially with a small circle of 4–5 people I’m close to. I feel like I overshare with them—like I end up discussing almost everything in detail. Sometimes our conversations go on for hours.
The bigger issue is that this doesn’t just happen with them. If I reconnect with someone I haven’t spoken to in a long time (like a year or so), I end up oversharing with them too. It’s like I can’t regulate how much I talk once I get comfortable.
For context, I wasn’t always like this. Growing up, I was actually the opposite—I didn’t share much about my feelings or thoughts. During COVID, I became very close to a female friend (I’m male), and we used to talk almost daily for 3–4 hours (sometimes even more). We talked about everything. That phase lasted for a couple of years.
That friendship eventually ended, and it wasn’t the healthiest situation overall. After that, I slowly started limiting my circle and now mostly talk to just a few people.
But now I’m realizing that I’ve kind of carried forward this habit of talking a lot and oversharing, regardless of who I’m speaking to. It’s starting to bother me because I feel like I don’t have control over it.
So I guess my questions are:
How do I stop myself from oversharing?
How can I become more balanced in conversations?
Is this something I should actually be concerned about, or am I overthinking it?
Any advice or similar experiences would really help.
Note: This post was structured with AI to help me organize my thoughts better, but the situation is completely real.
Thanks for reading.