My fiancé and I are going away on the weekend of Mother’s Day. Our neighbour has a cottage that my fiancé helps him work on and he needed assistance in the month of May.
Due to preexisting plans we have(we can’t cancel or reschedule) the only days that would work for us is May 8th until May 13th.
Every Mother’s Day my fiancé and his mom go out for the day. She will not let anyone else join in, not even his father. He is an only child.
We told his mom that will we will be away that weekend and she is furious. She thinks it’s selfish of us to go away on Mother’s Day and that it’s not fair to her. She looks forward to this all year long and it’s the only time that works because the flowers are in perfect bloom(they do a walk that day) and the conversation ended with her shutting the door on my fiancés face. It seems like she wants us to change our plans but we won’t.
I honestly think it’s ridiculous that she’s upset over this. We are adults, life happens and opportunities sometimes get in the way of holidays.
This is not the first case of her acting this way.
We live in a duplex and rent the top half of the apartment. My fiancés parents are in their 70’s so it helps to be around in case they need assistance.
When we got engaged she did not seem too thrilled. My fiancés dad was super excited and she just kind of sat there. The day after we got engaged she was asking my help on sending a text to a family member and I guess she forgot what her previous message was, it says “OP and fiancé got engaged so it’s been a lot”.
She got upset when we got a dog.
If my fiancé and I go out on a date to a town or place she has been to, she insists that we eat at her favourite restaurant and eat her favourite meal and will be upset if we don’t.
It’s becoming a lot and I am unsure of how to proceed.
I told my fiancé that I don’t like feeling like I’m in a relationship with him and his mother and how is she going to act when we have kids and Mother’s Day is spent as a family unit.
TL:DR; fiancés mom is upset we are going away the weekend of Mother’s Day.