So I’ve worked with her for a few years and we usually text every day, either about work or just life in general or sharing funny videos. We vent to eachother and ask eachother for advice frequently and I enjoy her company at work and texting outside of work.
I’m kinda antisocial and don’t have a lot of friends and I know she’s the same way, so it meant even more to me cause of that, and we just have a lot in common. Recently, she’s been picking up wayyy too many shifts and getting burnt out because she’s trying to move out of her parents house. (She’s late 20s and I’m mid 20s) We work in healthcare so high burnout risk.
The feeling of tension started when I took a few days off of work because my long term partner was in the hospital with life threatening health conditions and ended being there for 4 days. It was really fucking scary and I was an emotional wreck the whole time, but thankfully he pulled through and is on the upswing now.
She was checking in for the first couple days and I really appreciated the support and made sure to tell her that and ask how she was doing as well/ how work was. I noticed right after I called my work to let them know of the situation and they gave me a few days off, it was radio silence on her end and I started getting the vibe she was mad at me or something.
The check ins stopped completely, even when I came back to work later in the week she never asked about him and if I brought up the subject when we were just talking about life and whatever, she quickly shuts it down to talk about something else. We still were joking around and talking at work but no texts outside of work, and there were a few times she got a little bit short with me over random things.
Apparently, it was pretty short staffed while I was gone and I understand she’s already burnt out and that’s frustrating, but I think if her partner or family member almost died and was in the hospital she’d wanna be by their side too and it kinda hurts that it feels like she’s holding that against me in some way? And it’s not like I ever take unscheduled time off and I barely ever call out.
It could be in my head and she’s just burnt out in general but I’m sensing this tension between us. She always gets unnecessarily pissed when others call out or take time off. I mean I’m not happy when people call out but I don’t take it as a personal offense how she seems to.
Should I approach the subject in some way or just give her space? Should I just ask if she’s okay in general? I thought we were friends and I enjoyed texting her outside of work, I feel like we have a lot in common and it was fun talking to her so it just makes me kinda sad.