It's difficult for me to meet women…like at all.. I've tried to improve myself physically…I run and exercise 5x a week, I groom, I have skin regimes, I dress well, I'm 6'3. I shouldn't have issues at least finding women who would give me a shot. But face isn't good.. Bc of that, I'm usually pretty anxious, I'm no longer college-aged (33), and I don't have a ton of friends (and they really only go to bars), so meeting women isn't easy.
I'm trying to find alternative, nerdy, artsy, witchy, hippie, goth, quirky, creative, etc. women as I'm a nerdy goth myself (though no one ever assumes that and I've always had those interests, but I could never find people like that. Hell, it's not even just women, I'd love to just make friends in that scene. Though Idk if it's my location or what (East Coast), but I can't seem to find out where these women go. I see them all over OLD sites bc I literally get no matches or even likes, and I've been trying to use them for YEARS. I'm an introvert and have trouble meeting people irl, and even then, it's considered outdated and "toxic" now.
Most of my interests are artistic, like museums, hiking, art shows, concerts, poetry, film, fashion, etc., and those seem more like places to go to meet women rather than taking women on a date. The main issue is I'd be mostly going alone to those places, which would make it that much harder to actually meet anyone…are there better suggestions I'm not thinking of? I tried volunteering at an art gallery for a while, but the only friend I made there was the arts manager, and she's a lesbian, and she's not…good with communication.
I literally cannot begin one with a woman I'm attracted to. I just overthink it and freeze. I'm intent on being as respectful as possible, which means I'm always platonic (probably to a fault). I don't think I come off as weird or creepy, and I haven't been told that I haven't. At this point, I haven't had a date in ages, and I don't even remember what flirting with a woman feels like…
Is there anything you can actually do in this era if you can't use OLD?