Been talking to a girl for almost 2 months, been on one date recently and just tonight she’s told me after her first counselling session that she has a lot she needs to deal with and resolve and a relationship just isn’t on the cards for her at the moment
Which sucks! She’s a genuinely great person who was very good at communicating, was smart and funny and nerdy and had a lot of interests both similar and different to mine etc….
It sucks!! Especially given it’s my birthday in 24 hours and we were supposed to have a second date on it😗
Anyway my point is that this isn’t in isolation, in fact over the last year and a half I’ve dated/been with what is now 4 people, all of which end things whilst dating/shortly after being in a relationship with me because they either aren’t ready or they feel they can’t be a good girlfriend and also don’t feel ready for a relationship
Each time I’ve been told I’m nice and patient and understanding and it’s not my fault over and over and over and honestly I’m sick of it. How am I supposed to work with that?? Especially in this most recent dating situation I feel I did everything I possibly could! And she’s told me she’s never felt so understood and been given the space to be vulnerable and allll this stuff and it’s like ok, why am I the common denominator then? Why am I so temporary? Surely if all this is true I can’t be this unlucky 4 times right?? I’m not sure what to believe😭it felt so out of the blue I don’t know what I’m supposed to learn from this situation this time, I try to self reflect and have done a lot in the past but right now I’m not sure what there is to reflect on which is frustrating cause I really don’t want to get put in this situation again lol