I (23M) met a girl (26F) a little while ago through mutual friends. Since we met, I always picked up on a subtle romantic interest on her end, but I always chalked it up to me imagining things until recently. These last couple of weeks, she's been very upfront about wanting to spend time together, just the two of us. While she hasn't explicitly communicated any romantic feelings, she's hinted very strongly at wanting something more. I've noticed that she especially goes out her way to spend time together, even if it's brief.

I've been enjoying our time together as we do have pretty good chemistry and have similar interests/senses of humor. To be quite honest, on top of that, I do find her pretty, and am sexually attracted to her. However, I don't have any strong "romantic" feelings towards her. I can't envision myself wanting to be in a committed relationship with her if I'm being frank. I find the entire situation quite frustrating, cause on paper, she's " girlfriend" material, but I can't bring myself to feel anything more than platonic feelings mixed in with lust.

I'm very much inexperienced when it comes to dating, so I've been wondering maybe this is how relationships should start, and I'm just being naive, expecting cupid to hit me with an arrow and make head over heels for a woman. However though, I'm also afraid of leading her on, and hurting her feelings. Should I continue seeing her, or should I set down clear explicit platonic boundaries now?


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