As it mentions in the title, my girlfriend of 8 months is travelling to Australia to see her friends for 3 weeks. It’s a big group of friends and I know them reasonably well. But, she told me a couple of days ago that she’s also then taking another flight to a different city to stay with a guy friend of hers for a week. He invited her to stay with him to go explore the city over the week. She told me this and then went on to say that she’d been telling me that this was the plan. The whole time she’s been telling me that she’s also gonna see an old friend from high school who lives in a different city. She made that sound like she’s having lunch with the guy. Now, all of a sudden it’s a week with this guy that I know nothing about.
Now, I have no problem with her having guy friends. She has a few. I trust her completely. I don’t think anything has ever happened between her and any of her friends. But, a week long trip one on one is ridiculous. That I can’t tolerate. So I told her she can go and I’m out. The fact that she would plan a trip like this and tell me after the fact is an extremely disrespectful towards our relationship, especially when all we talk about is prioritizing each other over everything else. I don’t know what else to do except end things here. I don’t think this will be a one off, it’ll just become a pattern of pushing boundaries.
After this conversation, she was very quick to say she’s cancelling the trip but I don’t think I care about that after the fact. I don’t think I can be in a relationship where I’m dealing with things like this. I expect my partner to have respect for our relationship, not just say “I’m not cheating on you though.” Is this pattern to expect if we don’t end things here?
tl;dr my girlfriend planned a vacation with a guy friend and I want to end things because I don’t want to deal with this pattern if disrespect for our relationship.