tl;dr: [20M] and [19F] – Been together for 1 year. My girlfriend has become cold and distant, hiding secrets and threatening self-harm when I try to discuss my feelings.
My girlfriend has really been acting very cold and distant for many days. She keep saying she can't give me time because her daily routine is very busy and I understand that's why I don't say anything and just go on. I have not seen her face and only heard her voice for a few minutes (2) and it's been more than 1 year. We both were really close and I was finally getting out of my depression. She was such a wholesome and beautiful soul. She has a lot of secrets and when I ask her, she keeps saying I can't handle it or might taunt her for what she did. She has been acting too distant since more than a month. Also She had a Male Bestfriend but because he was acting too comfortable and loved her (too much comfortable imo like bike rides), I told her to stop being with her so comfortable and she told me that she blocked even though she tried to deny a lot before and used to say that It's Just My Overthinking. I don't force her for anything. I am a person who wants to know the problem of their loved ones and she's a close book and it creates overthinking that what can be secrets so bad. She has told me that she doesn't have privacy and her parents are strict and doesn't let her have Male Friends. She's too busy that she can't even give herself time.
She was playing with her friends and was outside late at night then I felt bad that if she has time and permission to be out so late then why doesn't she call me? I would love to hear her voice. She told me she doesn't want to call and mood. She's too cold and acts like she doesn't care if our relationship sails or not. I just want her to rely on me, share her problems and let me help her and stay together but she denied and says that she doesn't want anyone and doesn't want to reveal her secrets because I'll judge her. I am not a person like her and I deeply love her. I have changed a lot for her. I didn't used study, I used to waste my time on corn and stuff and doesn't care about my looks but she changed it and I am much better person and I understand her but I am hurt. When she told me she won't share her problems and can't change, I told her that I am like this and break up because I don't want to live like this and she will be happy. She said Okay then, I'll Commit Suicide. And then offline I was panicking and called her for the first time and her father picked up and I had to act like i am her friends brother and my female friend helped me too because her father asked me to call when her Friend is back and my female friend acted like her friend. I am really being held at gunpoint rn. I love her a lot and it hurts me