Me and my boyfriend (long distance) reunited a couple days ago and we’ve had lots of sex since then. We’ve noticed that the ring right before the hole is really swollen, like swollen shut kind of. You can’t see the entrance at all. We’ve continued to have sex (I know I know, I don’t want a lecture) and he wanted to check how it was and he said that 1/4th of it on the left side looked really veiny/bruised in a way but there was no bleeding, and the swelling seemed to be the same and didn’t get worse.
When we do leave it alone, it goes back to almost normal but when we do it again, it swells back up. I’m in his country, so I’m not a citizen and therefore would have to pay a lot for an appointment so we’re trying to avoid that.