I (F21) used to have a huge crush on this guy (M20) during the last 2 years of high school. He used to always stare at me during chem class but never talk to me. Though, all his friends did and were nice yet awkward. There was one time where they messed with the papers in my binder when I wasn’t looking and none of us acknowledged it. My friend told me it was him and his friends. I was very emotionally unavailable and too romantically inexperienced to understand why all that was happening.
It’s been 3 years since I’ve seen or talked to him but we’ve always been mutuals on Instagram. I just left a 1.5yr relationship 2 months ago while he left a 2.5yr one 3 months ago. Naturally, I’ve been thinking about him a lot and how I was too avoidant to show genuine interest for him back then, but I want to reconnect now. I know we have similar interests and we also share similar Instagram reels and explore page feeds because I see him liking posts on my feed often. I’m not sure how to approach him, given he hasn’t been posting stories for me to have an opening. I do plan on taking that step one day though. One of my friends advised me to just send a reel because I can’t know for sure when he’ll post next. Since I’m still navigating the dating pool after my first relationship, I’m a bit afraid of feeling rejected by him or how I’d be perceived given our shallow history.
Not sure what to say or do to actually approach him but I’ve heard he’s still a very nice guy—he’s more my type now than he was back in high school too!