TV mostly shows them as a very sombre affair. Everyone speaks in hushed tones and drinks tea. is that true to life?
is it ever acceptable for a wake to be more like a party with loads of food, alcohol and laughter? or would that be seen as inappropriate?
Edit to clarify: I'm in the UK so a wake is the gathering of family and friends after the funeral service. There is no drinking at the funeral home. The service is a sombre event. There is no viewing of the body.
The wake is typically held in a pub or a hired room. It usually involves a buffet, alcohol and everyone shares fond memories and funny stories. It's like a celebration of life so laughter is not frowned upon or considered disrespectful ❤️