I asked this in a comment on another thread but interested in clarification for anyone who wants to chime in. A woman was saying how women should not approach men because that leads to meeting low effort guys.
In my opinion and experience, I feel that women actually start the process by signalling interest, and then yes, a man should take the lead and approach and start courting.
But now I am wondering if that is "low effort" thinking that I have just normalized.
To the women here, I want to ask one clarifying question. When you say a man should approach, are you talking about:
-a man should cold approach like you're somewhere minding your business, you've never seen this guy before and he should come over and introduce himself, ask for a date etc?
Or, a man you are familiar with and have shown some kind of interest in like eye contact, long conversations, flirting should then be the one to ask you out and take the rejection risk because he really wants you?
The reason I ask is because I follow model B. I have usually only approached women I know and have met in a social setting, had a conversation with, and had some reason to feel like she is interested, based on warmth, flirting, eye contact etc.
Does that make me a passive, low effort guy? Like are other guys just cold approaching women in the street and asking for their numbers and would women really want or be open to that?