Mid 20s dude here. I definitely want connection but I seem unable to hold onto it once it happens. I start to pull away, I think somewhat of a “if i leave first then they can’t hurt me” kind of mindset. I know it’s stupid and honestly i’m really tired of it but it seems to just be my default reaction.
Also I just find the idea of finding and committing to one person a bit stressful. I mean 50% of marriages end in divorce which is honestly some really bad odds.
To any of the men who have had these issues in the past, how did you get over them? Even if you weren’t able to completely change your mindset did you find ways to accept it and deal with it day to day?
Edit: To the comments suggesting therapy, I have done it in the past a little bit and i’m working on getting back into it again, just have to work out some insurance stuff first but don’t worry I am planning on doing it again. However it wasn’t very helpful in the past bc my therapist basically said that I am very aware of all my problems in life so she can’t do much for me and that I have to make the changes myself, which I definitely do understand and agree but it made it feel like it wasn’t really worth the money I was paying for it, but I am going to give it another try soon.