Hi, My gf and me are in a relationship since one year. When things are good it’s great. We are lovey dovey. I’m going through some big things in life which I have told her already and before enetering relationship I clearly set boundaries for peace, clarity and understanding . There are some days in month or maybe once in two month when I get little week and vulnerable and message her in very little “panic” mode. She will leave me on my own and tell me to handle it myself.
She goes 100% cold and gives me mean and disrespectful comments including my situation which I shared with her on trust. She always takes 1-2 week to come back and later she realises that she overreacted. But during those 1-2 weeks she gives me dry replies and no initiation from her side.
But the flip is that if I’m annoyed or cols with her even for 20-30 minutes she will message me 20 times and ask to talk it out and live happily. I always do that and never remain cold on her.
But this time this went far she fought with me for some useless thing again and started giving mean and hurting personal comments again. I also said something to explain her which hurted her. I tried calming her down and apologised but in vain. I got into fever due to no sleep and told her that I’m not keeping well let’s end the fight you can fight with me later. But she gave a very rude reply. Should I end this relationship? I will miss her for the love time and good times because she’s caring and loving when things are good but the after fight thing are too much to handle!
Tldr: Gf goes cold for 1-2 week after fight and gives me mean and disrespectful comments including my personal life. But it’s very loving and caring when there are no fights.