Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. We are at a point in our relationship where we constantly are fighting, it never seems to end. He says “I cry too much” and I say “you don’t care enough”. I’m starting to get so tired, I do cry alot almost everyday now because of how often we fight. When we get into these arguments I feel like it always ends up that I’m the bad guy. He told me I yell too much and I have stopped or tried to at least. But when we argue he can go all day without responding back to me, or when it’s in person he just sits there in silence.
I have started going to therapy because I think that I have alot of trauma from past relationships and even my parents. I know that yelling doesn’t help any argument. So I also talk about this in therapy, but lately it seems like no matter what I do he ends up calling me crazy. Which sucks because I already feel crazy hence why I go to therapy. Yes I shouldn’t yell at him, yes I shouldn’t cry when he says he doesn’t want to see me, and yes maybe I can be too much sometimes. But I’ve told him many times please don’t call me crazy, don’t ignore me, and yet it still happens.
I guess I’m worried that everything I do is just making him upset. I even apologized when I started crying saying “sorry for overreacting” and his response was “you always say sorry after doing something wrong”. I didn’t realize till after that crying isn’t wrong and I’m aloud to. So it’s just very confusing on WHAT IM DOING WRONG.
TL/DR: I feel like my boyfriend kind of pushes my feelings to the side and makes me the bad guy in every situation. He feels like I yell too much and yes I do. But I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong when I’m just expressing my emotions.