My (20F) boyfriend (21M) has a lower sex drive than me and it's starting to affect our relationship. I've known him for a little over a year and we've been officially dating for two months now.
I love my boyfriend dearly – he treats me very well and is an extremely caring individual. That being said, our libidos don't match up. I want to do it at least 1-2 times a day and he's fine with going days without having sex. Neither of us are particularly busy- we both have part-time jobs, but we spend enough time with each other to where intimacy wouldn't be hard to achieve. We cuddle a LOT, kiss a lot, and have plenty of casual intimacy- he tells me all the time how much he loves me and how beautiful I am, so I'm not particular insecure about him being secretly unattracted to me. I find myself getting cranky and irritable whenever I'm around him too long and we don't do it, which has been a problem since I've only been getting hornier the longer I've been with him. With my recent-ish spike in sex drive, I've just been constantly snappy and grumpy whenever we don't do it. It's also been hurting my feelings a little, even if I know it's not necessarily my 'fault' whenever he doesn't want to have sex. I'm super touchy with him, I give him plenty of foreplay (20-30 minute bjs which he's expressed his satisfaction with), and I don't think there are any looming problems with our relationship or in his life that could be stressing him out. Additionally, after he finishes, he basically goes out of commission and experiences extreme levels of fatigue the next day (is that normal???)…
I have spoken to him about this issue as an entirety, and while he does feel some level of sympathy, I don't want to guilttrip him into having sex with me.
I'm not so shallow as to base a relationship entirely off of sex, but I have been noticably unhappier and I feel bad with how much of a physical toll the act seems to take on him. Is there anything I can do??
Any help would be appreciated!!