I left a 10 year very controlling relationship and met my (28f) current bf (25m) a month later. I was doing as ok as one could in the circumstance of a controlling relationship, mostly because we only saw eachother 2 hours a day. I had dpace to be myself, my own home, and healthy habbits i was very proud of and grateful to have.
I moved across the country to get away from my ex, he would not leave me alone. It ended up being great anyway, i moved from a cold state to a warm one and loved it. I found a great job, i had more time to myself. I really value alone time.
I met my bf through mutual friends. He travels nomadically and i found that really cool and interesting. He stayed w me for a while and his habbits started to show: smoking, junk food, no exercise, lots of phone time. It didnt bother me when i started to pick up some of the habits because it felt like the honeymoon phase, just enjoying myself.
Fast forward a year: im smoking again (quit 6 years ago) eating junk food almost daily, no exercise, poor sleep, absolutely zero alone time, and im traveling with him i have been for 8 months. Ive fallen into a depression because of the stress of traveling and stoping my routine. I havent even brushed my teeth or my hair. I feel flat.
Every time i bring up that i think traveling might not be for me he says i just need to get back into my routine, but i find that so hard to do while traveling. He is being supportive. Hes buying healthier foods, encouraging me to exercise and giving me alone time. Hes also very helpful when i am so low that i will barely move for the day. He wants badly for us to make it work and he wants to change for the better-for himself and to help me get back on track.
But I need a job, i need more purpose. Ive tried breaking up with him and getting a van to travel in so i can work, have my alone time and routine and travel, but he wants to come. He says im letting my depression make my decisions for me and couples need to fix things instead of breaking up.
By no means am i blaming him when i say this, but the influence his lifestyle has is making it extremely hard to get back to myself. We are who we surround ourselves with.
He says he wants to change, but he has never lived the lifestyle i prefer.
Is this a reason to end things?
TL;DR I am being strongly influenced by my boyfriends unhealthy lifestyle and habbits and Ive gone into a depression. Is this a reason to end things?