I was on my husband’s phone looking for photos of our son and came across an old photo of me from my early 20s that was only on my old Facebook account as far as I’m aware. That made me curious, so I checked his deleted and hidden folder and found a bunch of AI-generated nude images and short clips of me.
They’re not extreme or anything. Mostly topless images or clips of me lifting my shirt. There’s nothing of anyone else and as far as I can tell he hasn’t shared them with anyone. It seems like it’s just for him.
I feel really conflicted. On one hand, there’s something kind of flattering? Like he still sees me that way and went out of his way to generate those images instead of looking at other people. On the other hand, it also feels really invasive and unsettling. The idea that my likeness has been used like that and possibly uploaded into some AI system somewhere makes me uncomfortable.
I’ll admit we haven’t really been intimate in a long time, largely because of my own mental health struggles. So part of me almost feeL’s relieved? Like at least he’s turning to something connected to me rather than other people or cheating. But I don’t know if that makes this better or just complicates it.
I haven’t brought it up yet because I don’t even know what I’m feeling, let alone what I’d want from that conversation.
Has anyone dealt with something like this? Is this a harmless fantasy thing or is this crossing a line? And how would you even start that conversation without it blowing up?