So I reached out to the wife’s friend, and she was very kind and helped pass the message along. Eventually, the wife contacted me directly and asked for details and evidence. I told her everything.
I had been in a long-distance relationship with this guy for 3 years. I had no idea he was married. If I had known, I would have told her sooner or avoided him completely.
The wife was surprisingly kind to me. I honestly expected her to be angry or attack me, but she didn’t. What’s confusing is that the man I knew is completely different from the man she described. He was always sweet and caring with me, which makes me feel like he’s been living a double life.
What makes it worse is that I’ve actually met his friends, and he introduced me to them. That part really makes me sick, because they clearly know he’s married, yet they still tolerated and went along with it.
She told me they’ve been married for 12 years and that she’s planning to get a divorce. I feel really guilty, like I helped destroy a family, even though I didn’t know the truth. He told me before that they were just co-parenting, and there were no signs of a marriage on his Facebook, which is why it took me so long to figure it out.
I let her know she can reach out to me anytime if she has more questions.
Did I do the right thing?