So I matched with this girl on Bumble a while ago. We were texting pretty consistently, not all day every day, but enough to build a bit of a rapport. The conversations felt really nice, bantery, and she seemed genuinely interested. The only issue was that I couldn’t meet up straight away because I was travelling interstate.
We eventually moved off the app to Instagram and text, and made plans to meet when I was home. She initially suggested Saturday or Sunday, and we settled on 5pm Saturday. The day before, she asked if we could push it an hour later because she had a call to make. I couldn’t make that work since I was visiting my dad later that night, so I suggested Sunday instead. She said she was working, but didn’t offer another time.
After that last message, I never heard from her again. I kept things light at first, and sent a message to try and reset things, suggesting we catch up early the following week (I was heading to Melbourne on Wednesday). She read it and didn’t respond.
I left it for a while, and once I returned after a week I sent one final text:
“Hey (Emma), I just wanted to check in once more. I really enjoyed chatting with you and genuinely would’ve liked to meet up, but I’m guessing the timing or interest just wasn’t there. No hard feelings either way.
Best of luck out there and take care.”
No response to that either.
I get that no one owes anyone anything, but I don’t really understand why someone would spend four weeks building something with another person, move off the app (follow each other on Instagram), keep chatting, joking, and engaging… and then just disappear the moment it comes time to actually meet.
It just really bummed me out.
Is this really how dating is now, why do you think people do it, and am I just missing something about how people approach this stage?
Thanks for reading, just wanted to get this off my chest.
EDIT: I just wanted to add that she was an intern at the local hospital and had constant shift work. Which was another reason we couldn't see eachother sooner. Also, the only reason we moved off the apps was so she could delete them (which she did).