Hey everyone,
These past two months have been the wildest, most confusing time of my life.
Month 1: I finally started going out and on one of my very first nights (around 4am) I pulled a girl to the dance floor. She suddenly started making out with me aggressively. We went back to her place and I gave her what she wanted — I made her cum hard. But the second she finished, she basically said “Okay that’s it, I want to sleep now” and walked me to the train station even though I hadn’t finished. It messed with my head pretty bad. Took me a few days to realize I had just been used for sex. I didn’t even know that could happen to guys.
Month 2: I meet this new girl and it felt completely different. She was head over heels for me from the start — heavy love bombing, telling me how amazing I am, how much we have in common. We genuinely clicked on a deep level. I got swept up and matched her energy because it felt real.
But then things got weird. When I tried to kiss her on the lips she turned her head and only let me kiss her cheek. She told me she just wanted to be friends. Yet her actions were saying the complete opposite — she was leaning on me, grabbing my arm, even putting my hand between her legs and squeezing them shut. At one point she literally told me “I want to devour your mouth so bad right now.”
I was so nervous and falling hard for her that I held back. I didn’t want to be pushy because she said she only wanted friendship. We met up again, same crazy mixed energy, and at the end she asked to kiss me on the cheek again. I took her to the station and we went our separate ways.
Now we’re texting but I’ve been replying way too fast and double-texting/bombarding her because I’m excited. I’ve tried making plans to meet again but she’s always “unavailable.”
I’m back out in the nightlife scene feeling completely lost. Was the first girl just using me? Is the second girl playing games, actually into me but scared, or am I reading everything wrong? Why do I keep getting such confusing signals?
Any insight would be really appreciated. Thanks everyone.