my bf and i have been together 7 months. this was our first time having sex since he says he quit porn, he used to watch it almost daily for 4 years.
he asked if i wanted sex, i said i wasn’t sure and he respected that. later i decided i did want to. i was on my period (fairly heavy) and he was still keen, went down on me and we had sex with a condom.
after about 15 to 20 minutes, while everything seemed normal, he suddenly asked “can i be done now”. neither of us had finished.
as soon as he pulled out he said “eugh there’s a lot of blood” in a disgusted tone and quickly cleaned himself up. after that he didn’t cuddle me like usual, kept distance, and even pulled his leg away from me. i hadn’t cleaned up yet and kind of froze due to past sexual trauma (which he knows about). when i got up later he briefly offered to help but also seemed like he wanted space.
the next morning i tried to rub his back while he was half asleep and he shrugged his shoulder when i touched him so i stopped.
i asked him later that morning if he wanted sex the night before and if he found it gross, he said he did want it and was just tired. but it didn’t feel like that in the moment, at least for me.
i think this is hitting me more because it’s our first time since he quit porn and i feel like his reaction is feeding into my insecurities.
i don’t want to shame him but i feel hurt and confused by how quickly things changed and how distant he became. am i overthinking this or is this something i should be concerned about?
TLDR:
bf got grosssed out by period blood when he initiated sex during my period, he says he was just tired but his commentary and reaction made me feel embarrassed and disgusting