Well, this is a post I never wanted to make but I’m honestly at my wits end now.
My (F21) boyfriend (M22) and I have been together for nearly the last five years, we lost our virginities to each other and honestly had an ok sex life considering the fact that we’d never been with other people.
The last year or two, sex isn’t good. He cums really quickly – it honestly doesn’t take more than like a minute or so – and I personally take a long time to cum. He goes down on me, and he’s good at it, I own a dildo and have used it frequently, but I genuienly long for penetrative sex WITH HIM. We’ve tried him getting head before having sex but if he gets head too close to sex he just can’t get it up again and even with him having previously cum it still only lasts a minute or two. And yes, obviously I’ve used toys at the same time as penetrative sex and yes, then I get to cum – but honestly, sometimes I want to feel like I’m having sex for at least a couple of minutes.
He’s my best friend, someone I truly love to death and I don’t want to end the relstionship at all – but I don’t know how I’d survive with a sex life like this for the rest of my life. I really don’t want to hurt his feelings and suggest him going to the doctors but I feel like maybe I have to – does anyone have any recommendations on what I can do?