When I say confidence, I mean being sure of myself, knowing my strengths, and my actions aligning with my values. By extroverted, I mean always making connections and conversations.
My question is for confident people: do consistent dating foibles make you eventually doubt the things you like about yourself?
For example, I love my bold personality. I’m intelligent, well spoken, can carry a conversation well. People like me, but it seems to get in the way of my love life. Likep I’m too opinionated for one guy or I’m too emotionally comfortable for another; I often feel like “too much” even though I like my much.
I’m not unkind or judgmental; I’m pretty bubbly and like to talk about all kinds of things with all kinds of people. But I’ve gotten to a point where men just don’t seem interested in me and I’m starting to doubt the things I’ve always liked about myself.
Do you ever feel like the things you like most about yourself (for me: frankness, sensuality, intelligence, charisma, empathy) are the very same things that make you feel kind of unlovable? Like at your best you’re too much? Or intimidating maybe? Too talkative, too silly, too whatever? How do you reconcile liking something about yourself while recognizing that other people don’t seem to like it about you?
Am I doomed because I’m not a quiet, mysterious, cool girl? 🥲