Me (21M) and my partner (22F) are in a long-distance relationship and usually meet about once every 10-15 days for 2-3 hrs.
We were best friends for about a year before we became lovers. It’s almost our first anniversary since everything started, but recently things have become difficult between us.
In the beginning, we were extremely close; talking daily, sharing everything, and it felt very natural & magical. But over time, we’ve had more conflicts, and now it feels like we’re emotionally drifting apart.
Recently, we’ve been having more arguments and misunderstandings. I feel like I’m trying to fix things or bring up emotional issues, but she doesn’t always engage in those conversations in the same way. At the same time, she often seems more focused on work or other things, and we talk about our day either before or after she’s busy.
One of our earlier major issues was related to trust around her male friendships, but that situation has mostly settled now. Still, some emotional distance seems to remain between us.
She also comes from a very emotionally unstable family environment, which I understand affects her stress, mood, and sleep. I try to be supportive of that.
But right now, I feel confused. I still care about her a lot, but I also feel insecure, disconnected, and unsure how to approach her anymore. Sometimes I feel like I’m the one overthinking or over-apologizing in the relationship, and I don’t know if I’m handling things the right way.
I don’t want to lose this relationship, but I also don’t know how to bring back emotional closeness or “spark” when it feels like we’re slowly drifting.
What can I realistically do from my side to improve this; especially in a long-distance relationship like this?
TIA