I’m struggling with what to do because we both love each other a lot, but I’ve hit a breaking point.
I’ve trusted my girlfriend with a guy she claimed was "just a friend" for a long time. She broke my trust regarding him multiple times in the past, but I always forgave her because I wanted to make it work. Yesterday, I caught her talking to him again. At first, she wouldn't even dare show me the chats.
She eventually told me she deleted his contact and all their chats to cut him off for good. She came over to my place, begged me not to break up, and insisted she wanted to "start over" and do whatever it takes. She even offered an open-phone policy and shared all her passwords, saying I could finally trust her.
Because she had already deleted everything, I asked her to do a Snapchat Data Export to see the history. I think she agreed because she assumed that since the chats were deleted, the export wouldn't show anything. She was wrong.
While we were looking through the exported files together, we saw a topless photo of the guy. The second it popped up, her entire energy changed. She didn't apologize or explain; she just closed the photos, started packing her things, and said, "I don't feel like I want to stay here anymore, I don't feel comfortable."
She went from begging for a second chance to running away the moment the "sanitized" version of her story was proven false. I got angry and told her to get out and never show her face again.
The Context:
This isn't the first time. It’s a recurring pattern with this specific "friend."
She sent me a long text later admitting she "didn't set boundaries" and was "deceiving herself," but she still tried to hide the actual evidence until the very last second.
I’m torn because of our history and the love we have, but I feel like I was being played.
Is there any coming back from this when she only offers "honesty" as long as she thinks she won't get caught?