I am a long sleeper. I like a good solid 9 hours. On vacation I can do 13 hours easy. My 5 year old is a short sleeper. She currently needs about 10, and I can see the horizon of her only needing 9 (or 8. or 7).
So that brings us to sex. My husband and I have been averaging 3-4 times a week over the last couple years. We are also trying (and mostly failing) to get pregnant again. In short, we are going to start to do it while she's awake. Did I mention that she's 5, would like to be playing pretend with us constantly, and that our screen limit on weekdays is a 5 minute video while I'm doing her hair before school. On weekends she will sometimes watch Magic School Bus while I'm napping, but she likes to be snuggling with me on the couch while she does that. Before she wakes up is out (aside from "good morning" blow jobs), because I am zero percent in the mood in the morning.
I have no context or model for how to parent a kid through, "yeah, so we have sex." My parents were very infrequent and stopped altogether when I was 7 (although my dad made zero attempts to hide his porn, which made me really uncomfortable). I actually really wanted my parents to get at it, because that would show that they loved each other (they didn't) My husband was raised catholic, and his parents to this day refuse to admit that sex exists.
I'm at a loss for where we can fit this into our routine. Help.
edited for clarity