I [33F] have a partner [36M] who only seems to like having sex in the early morning before leaving for work. The problem is I'm not a morning person and usually can't just get up and do that unless there's some foreplay and lead up to it. The whole morning wood thing for him is definitely a thing. I know that almost every morning when we don't do anything, he will jerk off in the bathroom before getting in the shower.
The other day I was actually horny and wanted to be sexual and told him I wanted to give him head when he got out of the shower. He said "we can do that if you want" and we got into it. He is usually pretty easy to get off in the morning and it wasn't happening. he wanted me on top of him and even switched positions for him to be on top… nothing. He said he'd already started his day and his brain was elsewhere. I felt like I had done something wrong or that I wasn't enough. I couldn't let it go and asked him about it today …. did you get off before we had sex the other morning. Then it comes out, yes. Like why not tell me that?
I'm usually feeling frisky during the middle of the day and at night. If it's the weekend he usually wants to nap all day. At night he drinks a lot of beer and can last for a long time but will not finish, which is not satisfying to me.
How do we get to a happy medium of me even getting foreplay and actually being able to have sex or having the time for sex? I worry about time in the morning and not being late for work, plus I don't want to rush. And at night he's usually done with the day and has no energy to do anything or the want to. Where do I go from here?