I would describe myself as a passionate person. I'm passionate about my career and I have so much that I want to say and share about it. I have multiple hobbies that I'm obsessed with and have sunk a lot of time in and want to improve in, and I have so much to say about them as well. I have many shows, movies, songs/musical artists, internet communities that I'm a fan of and want to share with others and discuss with them. I have many close friends (of both genders!) that I appreciate and respect a lot and find super interesting and have shared many experiences. I'm very open about my passions both on my dating profile and in real life. Combined with the fact that I would consider myself very physically attractive (due to years of active and intentional effort in fitness, fashion, skincare, etc.), I've had no issues going on dates.
But yet every single woman I've dated seems to just not have any similar passion for anything. To their credit, most of the women I've dated are genuinely curious about my passions, and I'm more than happy to share with them. I'm a good conversationalist, and I'm keenly aware of how much I'll talk. When I go out with a woman, I genuinely want to learn more about them, and I desperately want them to be as willing to share their passions with me as I am to share mine with them.
But I always get nothing back.
When I ask about their career, they basically give me the job description. If I inquire as to their actual feelings about anything they do, the overwhelming response is some variation is "It's fine, I guess." I'll try to ask about other aspects of the job such as their coworkers ("Their cool, I guess. I like them), their aspirations ("Nothing really") or interesting experiences ("Not really").
When I ask about their hobbies/passions/things they like to do to fill time, I will at most get 1 or 2 activities that they've done a few times but couldn't really talk about at all. Every single time I'll express interest in their thoughts/experiences with their hobby, I always end up learning that it's something they actually just do occasionally and don't have any strong feelings about. Then there's the "hobbies" which technically are activities one does for fun but don't actually point to a specific passion. In this category, I would include Netflix, going out with friends, Travel, etc. Even then, it's always a dead end whenever I inquire about specifics. They
When the topic veers towards media and other aspects of culture, it's the same dead end. Just a bunch of movies/shows/games/other media that they say they watch, with nothing more to say about them then "I like it, I guess." If I try to explore deeper, maybe asking why they like it so much or their favorite character or other topics, I have never gotten a response deeper than "I like it/them, I guess." If we want to watch a movie/show, it's always on me to find the one we watch, because they never know. If we want to maybe go to a store/gallery/museum/anything , it's always on me to decide where we go, because they don't have any strong feelings on any of the options. If we want to listen to music in the car, it's always my music that we play, because they don't really listen to much.
And if the conversation is this painful when talking about their alleged passions, it becomes even more agonizing with everything else, from talking about family/friends, current events, philosophy, anything. It's just a deluge of "I guess"/"I don't really think about it that deeply"/"Oh I don't know anything about that."
The real insanity is when I notice that I'm getting the same exact kinds of responses from multiple different women I've gone out with. I have had 3 different women tell me that they had skiing as a hobby, and when I inquired further, they said that actually they've only been skiing a few times and actually didn't really know much about it.
And might as well forget about them taking the initiative and inviting me to do anything with them. I'll take them multiple times to participate in my hobbies and share the media I'm a fan of with them, but god forbid they ever have an activity they like that they want to share with me or have media that they want to show me to get my thoughts on.
The real killer is that this lack of passion for anything always ends up translating physically. They'll be perfectly happy to accept my physical advances/gestures, but will never reciprocate or initiate anything physically with me of their own accord.
And I know there are women passionate about their jobs/hobbies/media/culture/lives out there, who would love to share their passions with others. I want nothing more than to meet someone who wants to share their passions with me, such that I can reciprocate by sharing my passions with them. I just got to keep trudging through I guess.
TLDR: I keep playing the dating Gacha because I have enough premium currency to keep rolling, but I keep pulling the grey loot and one-star characters.