hi all, i wanted to ask for some advice regarding PIV sex and how i can make it feel better and less painful for myself.
this is my first boyfriend and we have been together for around 5 years and have definitely taken intimacy very slowly. we are each others first everything and he is the most loving and caring person i have ever met. the rest of our sex life is very fulfilling and exciting, although we aren’t able to do much since we both live at home with our parents and don’t feel comfortable doing things when other people are home – so we haven’t had the chance to have much penetrative sex. i have found it quite painful whenever he puts it inside of me and i haven’t felt any pleasure at all (which i know is common for a lot of women). he is very thick and we use lube and have tried different positions, one has worked for us but is still a bit painful for me.
how can i make sex less painful and more enjoyable? is it something that just takes time and work? whenever we try i have to stop after a while, he is very understanding, never pushes for anything and lets me decide what to do so that he doesn’t make me uncomfortable which i really appreciate, but still i am getting frustrated that PIV just isn’t working for us