For starters, he can write a coherent sentence, unlike this title.
An intelligent person understands their limitations. They know what they don’t know, or just know they don’t know everything and are willing to admit it and be willing to learn.
Just tell him
If you’re smart, you can recognize if someone else is smart
If he has a good job and good relationships with friends and family. and doesn’t have drug or alcohol addictions.
He asks intelligent questions. He doesn’t just keep talking about what he knows.
He is interested in things, people, ideas around him.
He can make connections between ideas. Sees parallels.
He doesn’t say “no” much. He is open to new ideas and will talk any objections out to make sure he’s not missing something.
He recognizes intelligence in others even if it’s not the same as his, and respects it.
You do it the same way to do it with any person of any gender. You listen to them. You learn about them. You see how they interact with information. If you know them, you talk with them and learn how their thought processes work. Smart people generally have areas of knowledge or curiosity that delight them, and that helps you learn a lot about how their personal types of intelligence manifest.
He admits he doesn’t know everything and he knows when to speak and when to be quiet. He doesn’t boast about smartness and doesn’t ridicule others for their ignorance.
Although to be fair, this applies to everyone.
He has depth that doesnt involve victimization
He isnt afraid to be authentic even if others may ridicule him.
He knows how to subtly deescalate situations in a proactive way.
Works in a field hes actually talented in (its not just a job).
He can hold conversations across a wide range of topics and thinks deeply and independently. He usually gets genuinely excited about a few interests and can really dive into them. He also doesn’t let his environment limit him, instead he figures out how to make the most of his situation and find a way to succeed.
Generally, he just has a depth to him that you don’t run into every day.
Those trying to look smart are often foolish. Those who dont mind letting others underestimate them, are often smart. The difference between a con man and a confidant man depends on how much one derives self worth from what others think, vs self worth derived from what one thinks about themselves.
People are smart in different ways and I try not to judge someone’s worth by having a particular type of intelligence or not. That said, if someone has no desire to learn anything and is not open to changing their views on anything, I’m going to avoid being around them. Same if they’re constantly bragging about their high IQ and being smarter than everyone else. For me, signs of positive intelligence are:
* curiosity
* the ability to figure things out, which might involve looking things up or asking someone if they get stuck
* having an understanding of what they know and don’t know
* expertise at something they’re interested in that isn’t just memorizing facts, but involves critical creative thinking
* being able to apply knowledge to different situations
* not needing to feel better or smarter than other people
* being able to explain something to people with different levels of understanding in ways that make sense to them
Sometimes it’s all in his eyes. They take everything in. He looks like he’s thinking deeply. Dumb or shallow guys have a blank expression.
How do you tell a girl’s smart?
Curiosity.
If a person is not curious, they are not my brand of smart. Regardless of accolades, credentials, accomplishments.
If you dont ask questions about everything, if you dont doubt your own knowledge base, if you dont hear oppositional views in good faith, if you cant adapt to new information that challenges your previous schemata – you might be adept at certain processing but you arent the kind of smart that is meaningful to me.
A person can have phenomenal mental capacity but if theyre still an asshole, their intelligence is surface level and inconsequential. You dont even need to be an interpersonal genius, just as long as you have an open mind, interest and humility to earnestly explore what you dont know.
For me it’s less about trivia and more about how he thinks: can he tolerate complexity, admit uncertainty, and stay curious instead of defensive?
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Humor’s a big one.
He respects me and doesn’t feel afraid to speak his mind(unless it’s disrespectful)
He doesn’t brag about being smart
If he knows me and still likes me he’s not gonna be that dumb.
He only speaks when he has something of worth to say
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For starters, he can write a coherent sentence, unlike this title.
An intelligent person understands their limitations. They know what they don’t know, or just know they don’t know everything and are willing to admit it and be willing to learn.
Just tell him
If you’re smart, you can recognize if someone else is smart
If he has a good job and good relationships with friends and family. and doesn’t have drug or alcohol addictions.
He asks intelligent questions. He doesn’t just keep talking about what he knows.
He is interested in things, people, ideas around him.
He can make connections between ideas. Sees parallels.
He doesn’t say “no” much. He is open to new ideas and will talk any objections out to make sure he’s not missing something.
He recognizes intelligence in others even if it’s not the same as his, and respects it.
You do it the same way to do it with any person of any gender. You listen to them. You learn about them. You see how they interact with information. If you know them, you talk with them and learn how their thought processes work. Smart people generally have areas of knowledge or curiosity that delight them, and that helps you learn a lot about how their personal types of intelligence manifest.
He admits he doesn’t know everything and he knows when to speak and when to be quiet. He doesn’t boast about smartness and doesn’t ridicule others for their ignorance.
Although to be fair, this applies to everyone.
He has depth that doesnt involve victimization
He isnt afraid to be authentic even if others may ridicule him.
He knows how to subtly deescalate situations in a proactive way.
Works in a field hes actually talented in (its not just a job).
He can hold conversations across a wide range of topics and thinks deeply and independently. He usually gets genuinely excited about a few interests and can really dive into them. He also doesn’t let his environment limit him, instead he figures out how to make the most of his situation and find a way to succeed.
Generally, he just has a depth to him that you don’t run into every day.
Those trying to look smart are often foolish. Those who dont mind letting others underestimate them, are often smart. The difference between a con man and a confidant man depends on how much one derives self worth from what others think, vs self worth derived from what one thinks about themselves.
People are smart in different ways and I try not to judge someone’s worth by having a particular type of intelligence or not. That said, if someone has no desire to learn anything and is not open to changing their views on anything, I’m going to avoid being around them. Same if they’re constantly bragging about their high IQ and being smarter than everyone else. For me, signs of positive intelligence are:
* curiosity
* the ability to figure things out, which might involve looking things up or asking someone if they get stuck
* having an understanding of what they know and don’t know
* expertise at something they’re interested in that isn’t just memorizing facts, but involves critical creative thinking
* being able to apply knowledge to different situations
* not needing to feel better or smarter than other people
* being able to explain something to people with different levels of understanding in ways that make sense to them
Sometimes it’s all in his eyes. They take everything in. He looks like he’s thinking deeply. Dumb or shallow guys have a blank expression.
How do you tell a girl’s smart?
Curiosity.
If a person is not curious, they are not my brand of smart. Regardless of accolades, credentials, accomplishments.
If you dont ask questions about everything, if you dont doubt your own knowledge base, if you dont hear oppositional views in good faith, if you cant adapt to new information that challenges your previous schemata – you might be adept at certain processing but you arent the kind of smart that is meaningful to me.
A person can have phenomenal mental capacity but if theyre still an asshole, their intelligence is surface level and inconsequential. You dont even need to be an interpersonal genius, just as long as you have an open mind, interest and humility to earnestly explore what you dont know.
For me it’s less about trivia and more about how he thinks: can he tolerate complexity, admit uncertainty, and stay curious instead of defensive?
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Humor’s a big one.
He respects me and doesn’t feel afraid to speak his mind(unless it’s disrespectful)
He doesn’t brag about being smart
If he knows me and still likes me he’s not gonna be that dumb.
He only speaks when he has something of worth to say