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It’s a legitimate breath of fresh air to have a misunderstanding/minor thing with someone you’re dating, and to be able to just talk to them. No yelling, no interruption, no anger— just talk. Resolution, “I miss you”, end. Like there’s real care and real feelings at the same time.
I don’t think I ever had that. She made me feel human and heard and held, even from far away. There was no chaos. It just strengthened attachment. It made me trust her to be legit.
I spent so long chasing feelings for women who never cared to communicate with me like this. “This is too much” or “you’re reading into things/stop over-analyzing” or “I don’t like confrontation and complex talks make me shut down”. I thought is it my tone? Is it my delivery? Is it stupid or annoying to ask for clarity? I work on these things in therapy. What am I doing wrong?
[…seeking validation from emotionally unavailable people!]
Would talking about exclusivity and long term family plans be a little too much to do all at once?
For context, I’ve been seeing a girl, we’ve met 5 times in about 7 weeks and the only real discussion we’ve had is we feel “good” about each other.
It’s mostly because I’m just nervous about asking (which is a me problem, I know) but I know this discussion has to happen sooner rather than later
Happy Easter to those who celebrate!
May that special thing you’ve been hunting for find you soon enough 🙂
Went speed dating yesterday and last week. Have a date planned for Friday with someone I matched with from the first event and we’ll see if there’s any matches from this last event. Overall, just trying to have a more positive mindset about dating and the future instead of focusing on the negatives and it’s got me in a much better mood! Happy Easter everyone!
He unexpectedly called me last night because he was thinking about me and wanted to talk to me. I immediately reverted to a giggly teen girl again.
The real reason I’m hesitant to date? I never get chosen. I don’t want to keep dealing with that.
Wanted to repost as I posted quite late in the previous daily thread. I never used to understand why people were so against dating people in the workplace. From a full time worker, it’s a missed opportunity because you’re spending so much more time with these people week to week than any hobby so you’re likely going to find people that you connect with more.
So I have been casually dating this colleague for ~2 months now. While I’ve met her at work events previously, she works remote and everything seemed fine chatting over text and phone calls but I did mention I find it hard to get a read on people until I meet them in person. And when we met in person for the first time as a date, the chemistry just felt off. I mean there were some specifics that in combination threw me off but I think there were just too many negatives for me based on previous dates to consider going forward with it.
So here comes my first time ending a date with a person I’ve been chatting to from work and we were intimate enough that even though the breakup will hopefully be amicable, I dread thinking about our interactions during work.
My weight has fluctuated. Perhaps 5 but definitely no more than 10 lbs. All my clothes fit, just a bit tighter, but not uncomfortably so though.
I’ve been sick on and off since December, my sleep cycle has been abysmal, so I’m extending myself a lot of grace. I just wish I could be active at a level that would address the recent change, without back peddling on my health progress. So far I’m easing into it by taking walks, but would like to start working in mobility and bodyweight exercises.
I’m also very exhausted from being constantly sick. *sigh *
I’m feeling a bit sad and frustrated today after weekend plans with the guy I’m seeing went straight down the tubes because of a stupid decision on his part. I expressed that I was sad/mad, he truly apologized and owned his actions. Now I’m sat in the uncomfortable position of waiting to see how he responds moving forward… will he make and effort to meet my needs or will this relationship continue to feel chaotic and inconsistent, controlled by other factors in his life. It has been 5 months. I’m tired and I’m doubting myself, but I also can’t bring myself to end it yet. There is always some progress on his end when we hit these bumps in the road, but I’m not sure it is enough. I want to be more of a priority, but I tell myself that isn’t realistic because we are adults with full lives and things happen, especially when those things are his chaotic/inconsistent work schedule and his adhd.
Happy Easter all!
Currently eating an M&Ms chocolate egg with mini M&Ms in it! I think we’ve peaked as a society, honestly. Doesn’t get better than this.
Also went for a run this morning so I feel less guilty about gorging myself on this. It sure makes Sundays more bearable.
I’m sure Jesus would appreciate me eating this chocolate egg
I spent the night with my friend that I’ve known since I was a teenager. It wasn’t planned and we’re both in open relationships.
How do you go back to being regular friends again when we’ve completely explored each other’s bodies?