My boyfriend(31M) and I (27F) been together for 2-3 yrs. I need some advices. Thru out my relationship, my bf doesn’t want me to post my photos online or send them to anyone even female friends or family.
For example, I sent a photo of me in a one-piece swimsuit on a beach vacation to my mom. She said I looked cute and, as an older Asian lady, posted it on her Facebook account. Some relatives commented asking where I was or saying I’ve grown up. He got upset and said I shouldn’t send my photo to anyone.
It’s not like I was making sexy poses, just normal photos. I also like to send my selfies to ask my two best friends for advice sometimes, like which color looks better for my makeup or dress, and he doesn’t like that either. Or even for silliest reason sending funny face poses, he says I should only send photos to him.
Now, even when I take a selfie just for him, he always asks, “You only send this to me, right?”
He says that even he himself doesn't post or send anyone. I pointed out that his own photo is online because his family posted it on Instagram.
I've already stopped posting my photos on social medias for a year now. I feel like he’s being controlling, but I don’t want to disrespect his boundaries.
I want to know how others handle boundaries around sharing photos in relationships like this.
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