My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 3, and have two children.
Our relationship has always been steady. Only ever had a few proper arguments, but we've always been able to work them out reasonably easily.
The two kids came along before we were married as a bit of a surprise, however we are financially sound and we adapted well to the change. We both share the load of kid duties, house work, etc., and still try to make time for each other.
I've always displayed more affection than she does, but that's never been an issue. Sex was never a huge part of our relationship, and it was always very, very vanilla. However over the years, the sex did dwindle significantly, with me initiating about 99% of the time, until it became something that happened maybe once every few months if I was lucky, and it felt more and more like she's doing it out of some sort of obligation.
Recently she admitted that she no longer feels any need or desire for sex. Nothing at all. It's not that she feels unloved, or that I don't do enough to help out, or that she's unhappy. She simply does not care for it. She says it's her decision and I should respect it, however now I currently have no choice but to live a life of unwanted sexual abstinence.
Before you go potentially jumping to any conclusions, I'm working with good sized equipment, I'm physically fit (going to the gym very regularly), and I'm not exactly a two pump chump.
I don't want to leave her, I don't want to split our family apart, and I definitely don't want to be labelled as the guy who decided sex was more important than his own family. But at the same time, I don't want to live the rest of my life with no sex, or very, very little sex. The idea that this will all turn around one day seems extremely unlikely.
What the hell would you do?