I (28M) was seeing a girl (26F) for like 2–3 months. Things were honestly going really well. Great chemistry, we were hanging out a lot, I thought it had real potential.
Early on I invited her to a camping music festival. There was some drama with her friends about her going, and I ended up convincing her to sell her ticket. I had family issues at the same time so we both were going to sell ours. Then my situation changed last minute and I decided to go anyway. Around that same time, I ended things with her because I had some doubts.
After the festival, I started regretting ending things and realized I still really cared about her and I made a mistake. But instead of just saying that, I texted her something like “hey can I come over to exchange our stuff,” so it probably came off like I was fully done. When we met up, I basically flipped it and told her I wanted to try again and that I hadn’t stopped thinking about her. I thought that would land better in person.
She was in shock and said she needed some time, so I asked if we should check in a week to give her some space.
Turns out, she met and hooked up with someone that lives in another state while I was out of town. By the time I asked to try again, she had already planned a trip to the Keys with him 3 days after meeting him (they’re currently there now). I found this out the next week when we checked in with each other. I didn’t handle that great—I got emotional, told her I still had feelings for her, and asked her multiple times to reconsider the trip. I even said I’d go with her instead.
She told me she still cares about me and that we could’ve been something, but the way everything played out made it hard for her to trust it right now. She said she needs space and still wants to go on the trip, but asked if we could check in next week after she has time to think.
Looking back I can see I probably:
• ended things too quickly
• didn’t communicate clearly when I changed my mind
• waited too long to reach back out
• pushed too hard when she was already unsure
Right now I’m backing off and not texting her.
I understand she was single at the time she met the guy, but 5 days after us ending and then planning a trip to the keys has really been bothering me.
I just can’t tell if I completely blew this with how I handled things, or if this is one of those situations where space might actually help and there’s still a chance after she gets back.
Could use some honest opinions.
TL;DR:
Ended things, realized I made a mistake, tried to get her back but she had already moved on and planned a trip with another guy. I got emotional and pushed too hard. Now giving space and not sure if I blew it or if there’s still a chance.